Several people I know are in the process of moving house. They’re all at different stages but two have actually sold their current home. The others are still waiting for a buyer. A conversation with one person who has been showing prospective buyers around her home for some time now, I noticed an interesting pattern of thinking.
It goes a bit like this:
The agent has just called and booked a second viewing next week for the people who came to see the house yesterday. That’s really good news – they must be considering putting in an offer.
I won’t get my hopes up. I don’t want to be disappointed if they decide they don’t want to buy my house after all.
But it would be great if they did buy it…
No, I won’t think about that…
And so on.
I started to think that this is a great way to cause yourself a lot of stress. All that ‘trying’ not to daydream about getting what you want.
Why not assume that the prospective buyers WILL put in an offer - and it WILL be one you can accept - and you WILL be moving soon?
That way, you can spend the whole week looking forward with enthusiasm. Think how productive you could be with that thought in the back of your mind all week!
And if they don’t put in an offer? Well, you’ll be disappointed. But wouldn’t you be disappointed anyway? Even if you’d spent the week resolutely NOT imagining that you might be about to sell your home?
So, what you and I can learn from this and practice in everyday situations, is that if we assume that we’re going to achieve our goals, we’ll be happier and more motivated.
And therefore more likely to achieve our goals!
So, go ahead and dream a little, imagine a rosy future and enjoy the anticipation of good things to come. In that frame of mind, you never know what you might achieve.
‘Fortune is merry – and in this mood will grant us anything’ Shakespeare (Julius Caesar)