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[Video] Available Resources

One of my favourite presuppositions of NLP says that people are doing the best they can with the resources they have available, and the reason I like that is because I find it useful in lots of different circumstances. The NLP sense of the word resources includes not just the tangible resources that you might have; like time and budget and so on... it's also your personal resources. So things like your energy and enthusiasm, your knowledge, your dedication - all of your internal abilities...

[Article] 7 keys to successful planning and goal-setting

1. Think BIG! If your goal isn’t a challenge and doesn’t represent an important achievement for you it’s unlikely that you’ll be motivated enough to sustain the effort required to complete it. Forget all that SMART goals stuff about ‘realistic’ and ‘achievable’. That pattern was devised for setting goals for other people who work for you in a big organisation. All the research shows that people set much more challenging goals for themselves than the goals others set for them.  It’s all to do with choice, I think. 2. Look at your whole life. If you only have goals and…

[Video] Mind and Body

Today I'm going to have another look at one of the presuppositions of NLP, the one that says the mind and the body affect each other. This is one of the reasons why I got interested in NLP in the first place. I've always been interested in how the body works as well as how the mind works, and was always curious as a youngster about the power of the mind over the body, and whether it was possible to think yourself well...

[Article] Why am I doing this?

If I’m really honest, I don’t like children very much. Shocking, I know. Not having any children of my own, I’m often irritated by the antics of small children in supermarkets and disapproving of their very presence in pubs and restaurants. I’ve been known to walk out of coffee shops full of buggies without even glancing at a menu and I love adults-only hotels. I don’t have anything against any individual child, it’s just that I quickly tire of the never-ending need for attention. Oh, and the noise! Yes, I know that by not having children I have missed out…

[Video] Perceptual Positions

Perceptual Positions is the idea of being able to see something from somebody else's point of view or, indeed, from a completely different point of view. If you work in a service industry, you probably will have had it drummed into you that it's important to be able to see things from your customer's point of view. In lots of other environments as well, we are encouraged to take somebody else's perspective. The thing is, it's not that easy to do it really well...

[Article] Perception is Projection

“Projections change the world into the replica of one’s own unknown face.” – C.G. Jung Carl Jung introduced the notion of ‘projection’ to explain how people can feel certain they know  what another person is like and what they think, then interact with the other person on the basis of those assumptions. Jung also went on to propose that often these assumptions are false and say more about the person making the assumptions than they do about the other person. He suggested that everyone has ‘shadow’ personality traits ie elements of our personality that we dislike or of which we are…

[Video] Positive Intentions

There's a presupposition of NLP which says that every behaviour has a positive intention. Now on first hearing that, lots of people have said to me over the years "I don't believe that's true." I'm not saying it's absolutely true. What I'm saying is it can be a useful way of looking at things. As with all of the NLP presuppositions we're not necessarily saying that they're true all the time, but what we know is that if we behave is if they were true, then we can get some useful results...

[Article] Being a Brilliant Coach

Have you noticed that there are moments in life when something becomes absolutely clear? It might be something you had never thought about before, or something you thought you knew, but suddenly there it is! We had one of those on the recent ‘How to be a Brilliant Coach’ programme: On the final day, the participants were experimenting with everything they had learned by coaching each other. By this time, most people had offered up their trivial concerns for practice sessions and were ready to address some more significant situations. This often raises the level of stress of the coach!…

[Article] What is a Phobia and how can you deal with it?

When a person reacts with extreme and debilitating fear to a harmless experience or entity, we say they have a phobia. Common phobias include fear of spiders, heights, lifts, snakes, flying and enclosed spaces.  Less common – but no less real for the sufferers - are the phobias about clowns, buttons, flowers or food. Neurologically, a phobia is a link between a specific stimulus – usually the sight of the thing that is feared – and the fear response. Psychologically, a phobia is an example of ‘one-trial’ learning.  This means that the phobia sufferer has learned from one significant experience…